I like his positive asset orientation in observing children's potentially annoying behaviors.
- "They need to know what's there — to map the emotional terrain and keep the map up to date."
- "It's an efficient way to get their parents' heightened attention and feel more powerful."
I like his reminder to parents to pull the plug on our emotions in responding.
He says to "de-activate your buttons — consciously choosing to stay Connected and Present, regardless of conditions and behavior — you reclaim your Authentic Power! You cease to be someone who can be controlled like a mindless machine."
PARENTING THE INTENSE OR EXPLOSIVE CHILD
These reminders and practical tips can be very useful, especially for those of us with intense children or "explosive children" with inflexible thinking that often accompanies sensory processing disorder, ADHD, and other autism spectrum disorders
HELPING DADS FEEL IN CONTROL WITHOUT YELLING
This father-son duo from "Celebrate Calm" has some great advice especially for dads who feel like they have to yell at their kids. There are alternatives!
Our University family resource center hosted this duo for a session on "parenting intense children" and it was useful for our family.
HELPING EXPLOSIVE INFLEXIBLE CHILDREN STAY CALM
There are also great resources from Ross Green and his colleagues who are focused on positive communication strategies for "The Explosive Child."
This book is highly rated and quite popular:
Here are some free resources for using their "Collaborative Problem Solving" model which I think are very helpful for intense children: